Often the lack of self-reference, self-honor and self-love comes up during the client conversations. Inner-violence is real and quite deteriorating…A lot of guidance out there that teaches you to “get rid of it”. One cannot respond the violence with violence. That will only add to the destruction. Violence may only be healed with kindness. And that requires compassionate look for what created the violence in the first place.
May your inquiry for finding perspective is a fruitful one….