In our first episode of Coaching with Mastery & Elegance with Tijen Genco we explore all things love. From love as a universal energy to the ways the ancient Greek philosophers defined it. We then transition into the individual experience of love. We begin by discussing the traditional view of love that creates expectations that block its natural flow—think, the expectation of receiving flowers on Valentine’s Day and the disappointment that might result if it doesn’t happen—as well as the first steps towards cultivating self-love. In this part, we talk about the importance of understanding and appreciating ourselves, as well as having a more gentle and nurturing relationship with ourselves. We discuss the struggle of giving to others from an empty gas tank, and the need to fill up our gas tank first to create more balance and inner-harmony. We talk about how love shows up in a coaching conversation, and end with Tijen inviting us to reflect on how we’re expressing love both externally and internally in order to give ourselves and others the greatest gift of all—the gift of love.
In our third episode of Coaching With Mastery and Elegance with Tijen Genco, we talk about belonging: Our deep and fundamental need to belong to ourselves and to others. Tijen begins by defining belonging and discussing where this inherent need comes from, the importance of experiencing ourselves through our relationships, and the need for self-reflection to cultivate a rich inner world. We examine the difference between true belonging and fitting in. She answers questions like, What happens when we experience the self-betrayal that comes with fitting in? How do we give ourselves permission to be our true selves? We look at belonging to a group by birth versus belonging to a group by choice, and how our personality plays a role in determining the groups we choose to belong to. We discuss the elusive question; How do we belong to ourselves? Tijen talks about her internal “executive committee” and how this supports her sense of belonging. The conversation shifts to how Tijen recognizes when a client is restricting or muffling their true self-expression, and how to help them “de-muffle” themselves. She also discusses how to create a deep sense of belonging when facilitating a coaching group. Links that were mentioned during this episode: Genco Coaching Upcoming Events Page Rising Through Resilience Article and YouTube Video