Well-intended questions can accidentally shut clients down. In my Comprehensive Coaching Taxonomy, I call these “unhelpful inquiry and reflection patterns.”
They look supportive on the surface, but they:
Collapse the client’s perceptual space
Redirect their meaning-making
Overlay the coach’s interpretation onto the client’s internal architecture
In this 5-min clip from my latest podcast, you’ll see real examples of:
Inquiry that leads instead of reveals
Reflections that distort the client’s narrative
Coach-generated meaning replacing client-generated meaning
Missed perceptual cues that change the session’s trajectory
Domain mismatch — the #1 thing mentors must catch
These aren’t “bad coaching” moments. They’re evidence. And mentors/assessors need to spot them with absolute clarity.
If you’re a mentor, assessor, or mastery-level coach ready to refine your perceptual accuracy, join me for:
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