It is this time of the year you will see a few articles about what you need to become, what to do with yourself and how you need to be this or that. Also, it is often this time of the year most people decide on how they need to be something other than they are. In both cases, there is a discontentment, and discord with one’s self. Sometimes guilt and shame is imposed through the thought leaders or teachers in the name of self-improvement to tell people they are not “good enough” unless they buy their offering or subscribe to their thought patterns to be better…
I remember having this conversation with my students and mentees a few years ago. I said, my re-solution this year and all the years to come is “not to improve myself” and arriving at the pace of appreciation, accordance and harmony with my own existence, grace, the beauty and creativity, and resourcefulness that I am!
I see year after year my clients struggling with themselves trying to change by resisting a part of them. As a coach, I can assure you, no change can take place by resistance. Only acceptance will bring energies of compassion and movement into existence. Plus, resolution, means resolving something, coming to terms with it. Therefore, some superficial goals, like losing weight or exercise will not hit the core challenge inside that is waiting to be heard, come to terms with and resolved…
So, the very first week of this year I am writing to create awareness around the information you might be getting overloaded with that has shame or guilt-based programming; social psyche and conditioning that will lead you into creating superficial goals, which will further alienate yourself from you.
My invitation is to take a moment to step out this non-ending circle of “needing to be improved” for a moment to reflect and plug you into you. Observe and appreciate your unique divinity, your grace, your creativity, and beauty that you are here to express. Make this year a “Celebrating You” year. In JOY appreciating you as the creative, resourceful, and whole human being. Make a year of nothing to improve here, move along year!! And a year to exit from the social programming that tells that you are not enough.
May your year be filled with grace that is equivalent to yours. May you see your beauty, light, and peace through the mirrors of your life. May you engage in activities and thoughts that are honoring you.
Happy and a blessed New Year.
Tijen Genco, MS, MCC, NBC-HWC, MBB, E-RYT200