Nothing to Improve Here

It is this time of the year you will see a few articles about what you need to become, what to do with yourself and how you need to be this or that. Also, it is often this time of the year most people decide on how they need to be something other than they are. In both cases, there is a discontentment, and discord with one’s self. Sometimes guilt and shame is imposed through the thought leaders or teachers in the name of self-improvement to tell people they are not “good enough” unless they buy their offering or subscribe to their thought patterns to be better…

I remember having this conversation with my students and mentees a few years ago. I said, my re-solution this year and all the years to come is “not to improve myself” and arriving at the pace of appreciation, accordance and harmony with my own existence, grace, the beauty and creativity, and resourcefulness that I am!

I see year after year my clients struggling with themselves trying to change by resisting a part of them. As a coach, I can assure you, no change can take place by resistance. Only acceptance will bring energies of compassion and movement into existence. Plus, resolution, means resolving something, coming to terms with it. Therefore, some superficial goals, like losing weight or exercise will not hit the core challenge inside that is waiting to be heard, come to terms with and resolved…

 So, the very first week of this year I am writing to create awareness around the information you might be getting overloaded with that has shame or guilt-based programming; social psyche and conditioning that will lead you into creating superficial goals, which will further alienate yourself from you.

My invitation is to take a moment to step out this non-ending circle of “needing to be improved” for a moment to reflect and plug you into you. Observe and appreciate your unique divinity, your grace, your creativity, and beauty that you are here to express. Make this year a “Celebrating You” year. In JOY appreciating you as the creative, resourceful, and whole human being. Make a year of nothing to improve here, move along year!! And a year to exit from the social programming that tells that you are not enough.

May your year be filled with grace that is equivalent to yours. May you see your beauty, light, and peace through the mirrors of your life. May you engage in activities and thoughts that are honoring you.

Happy and a blessed New Year.


Tijen Genco, MS, MCC, NBC-HWC, MBB, E-RYT200

Published by Tijen Genco

Tijen Genco is a certified Professional and Life Coach. Her client portfolio include C-Level senior executives, division heads, and chiefs of staff across wide variety of fortune 100 companies; country managers of non-profit organizations; entrepreneurs, lawyers, and seasoned coaches. Tijen holds Master of Science degree in Management with concentrations in Organizational Behavior and Coaching from the University of Texas at Dallas. She has obtained Master Black Belt in Lean/Six Sigma Productivity Improvement Methodology from Merck Sigma Center of Excellence. Tijen’s engagements as trusted advisor and management consultant have resulted in multi-million dollars in productivity benefits for fortune 100 companies. Tijen holds certification in various Yoga methodologies, Pilates and Meditation. As a wellness coach she has been instructing mind-body classes at prestigious clubs in the US since 2008. Tijen specializes in Executive Coaching, Organizational Development and Cultural Transformation along with Process Excellence. She provides individual as well as group/team coaching and workshops to corporate clients and private audiences worldwide. Tijen is passionate about social issues and participates in Social Responsibility efforts. She extends her specialty of cultural transformation and behavioral changes in the healthcare industry to non-profit organizations for enabling desired behaviors towards better health. In 2013, she served 3 months in India helping to improve the quality of Maternal Health services in the rural areas, coaching non-Government Organization resources. She has served at the board of International Coaching Federation (ICF), Philadelphia Chapter, as the VP of Education and Professional Development. Along the side of her coaching business, she is chairing the Global Executive Coaching Community of Practice of ICF, and instructing mind-body classes.

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