We hear about “unconditional love” and use the term without really being able to embody its meaning. When you have never experienced something, it is hard to understand it, such as unconditional love. Therefore, before we can speak about unconditional love. Maybe it is helpful that we talk about conditional love. Today, I would like to bring awareness around the conditions we have learned from our caretakers, our culture, and any other source that frames our exchange of love or our relationship to love offerings. I will list some examples for you to start seeing your conditions for “love-ability” or “love-deserve-ability.” Being nice, being quiet, being smart, being clean, being educated, having a nice house, having a clean house, not having dog hair all over their clothes, being blonde, being Jewish, being African-descend, being non-binary, being Christian, being Catholic, having blue-blood, being Indian, being from a same cast, being from a same tribe, being from same country, having a decent job, having a job, being university graduate, being high school graduate, your mother would approve, your father would approve, and the list goes on. If you don’t stop and look at your list, you have no idea that you carry this much conditional baggage and restriction to experience love freely. Love is a powerful energy. It needs to flow. When it starts banging the conditional walls you have created within, it results in so much stress and sadness. You want to love and don’t know why you cannot. It was never revealed to your conscious mind that you have all this heavy backpack given to you generation by generation, and even though they don’t make any sense to you at all, you still carry it with you as you are not aware of what you are carrying, even that you are carrying it. My invitation today is to recognize the backpack, put it down, go through it, and get familiar with your conditions to express your love and the conditions that block it. Find out how it is to live your life with and without these conditions. How ready are you to release them to the universe for recycling? Receive this invite to be the pioneer in your lineage of freedom from the backpack as a first step toward releasing the conditions of love reciprocation. May you always and all ways have the courage to be open to the flow of love.
With -not so-conditional –love, Tijen